Category Archives: twinless twins

I’ll not be home for Christmas (again)

The first post I’ve ever repeated in this blog, but rather fitting. The empty chair at the dinner table That great pre-Christmas schlep out of London now behind us, I’m happily ensconced in the guest room overlooking the village green. … Continue reading

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Awkward anniversaries for the bereaved

Anniversaries are difficult, both as a marker during the grieving process and as a sometimes unexpected reminder later on. Most people agree the first is the worst. That was certainly true for me. I’ve now got 20 behind me – … Continue reading

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The rose that died

It must have been even more difficult in the days before video, sound clips, photographs. How did you preserve the memory of your loved ones? Would even the sound of their voice be forgotten over time? For our precious photographs … Continue reading

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TFI Saturday!

It’s been a difficult year in general – a surfeit of celebrity deaths, that shock Brexit result, the departure of a Prime Minister. But for me, 2016 was largely going to be about one fact – the 20th anniversary of … Continue reading

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And when did you last see your sister?

No gym this morning and very strange that I find myself sitting at the computer writing this. It’s 20 years exactly since I last saw Jenny. That was at 7.45 on 31 August 1996, a Saturday morning. I’d already had … Continue reading

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August Bank Holiday 1996

Looking back at my diary for August 1996, it’s not the best written-up of months, although I’ve stuck to it more rigorously that I have to this blog at times. The August bank holiday that year was Monday 26th. I … Continue reading

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Twenty years ago – August 1996

The start of a new week and another month. When we were young children, the first of each month was always greeted with cries of ‘White rabbits!’ I have no idea why. This particular month is going to be a … Continue reading

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Finding a long lost photo of me with my twin

‘Having a happy month!’ A week on, and I’m still waiting for the online publication of my piece on Jenny’s life in a national newspaper. It’s a mixture of excitement and a little frustration. Meanwhile, providing the photographs set me … Continue reading

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The midnight knock at the door

How do police break the bad news to bereaved relatives? The 20th anniversary of Jenny’s death is fast approaching. In all those years since 15 October 1996, my opinions about what happened have changed many times: my thoughts on how … Continue reading

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Stop, rewind, replay

The problem of not knowing People who live to tell the story of a traumatic event often describe a curious distortion of time. It is, they say, as if everything slows down, a bit like watching the scene of a … Continue reading

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