Category Archives: death

‘Coming out’ at work about traumatic bereavement

Those awkward water cooler conversations A new year, and back to the office. Spare a thought for newbies getting to know their colleagues. Hopefully 2016 won’t bring many of those awkward moments I think of as ‘coming out’ about bereavement. … Continue reading

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I’ll not be home for Christmas

The empty chair at the dinner table That great pre-Christmas schlep out of London now behind us, I’m happily ensconced in the guest room overlooking the village green. It’s become a new normal – the food, the drink, the family … Continue reading

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No-one’s immortal

Five lessons Jenny’s sudden death taught me Strange how water cooler conversations can set off a chain of thought. Earlier this year when former Apprentice star Stuart Baggs died suddenly, all the talk at work was about the ‘27 Club’. This … Continue reading

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Don’t play that song again!

Choose that piece of music very carefully For those of you landing on this page expecting to read a post about Nicki French and the UK’s doomed entry for the Y2K Eurovision Song Contest, sorry to disappoint you. Admittedly written … Continue reading

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The scorched watch

A grim addition to an already gruelling day Most of us only rarely ever stumble into someone else’s intensely emotional moments in the course of our working lives. Not so for those in a few notable professions including doctors, fire … Continue reading

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Tribute to a stillborn twin

Guest post In order to widen the range of perspectives demonstrated in this blog, I’m inviting guest contributions from others who’ve had experiences of the issues I write about. For this first guest post, I’m very grateful to Phil for … Continue reading

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My diary of grief

Revisiting my diary from the month Jenny died In writing Twinned I was clear that this memoir on Jenny’s life and death was not to be a therapy diary. I wanted to tell a particular story that matters to me … Continue reading

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I never dream about my twin

A curious absence What a couple of weeks it’s been. First, on Monday 5 October, visiting Broadcasting House to record a BBC podcast with members of the Ouch team and guests who, like myself, are on one side or the … Continue reading

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Time to share our story

My disabled twin sister died in a fire Putting this into the public domain isn’t easy. It concerns a traumatic event of half a lifetime ago, and a close connection ruptured. It’s not something I’ve talked about with many people. … Continue reading

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