Category Archives: death

Helen Bailey

In these days after the sentencing of Helen Bailey’s murderer, we’ve learned how a dangerous predator has targeted a writer at a time when she was vulnerable. As Deborah Orr points out in the Guardian, elements of the press have … Continue reading

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I’ll not be home for Christmas (again)

The first post I’ve ever repeated in this blog, but rather fitting. The empty chair at the dinner table That great pre-Christmas schlep out of London now behind us, I’m happily ensconced in the guest room overlooking the village green. … Continue reading

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Twenty years after the inquest

It’s been a year of high-profile inquests. The cases that come to mind are Deepcut soldier Cheryl James’s inquest in June and nurse Amin Abdullah who died in February. Although I was moved by the news reports at the time, … Continue reading

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The rose that died

It must have been even more difficult in the days before video, sound clips, photographs. How did you preserve the memory of your loved ones? Would even the sound of their voice be forgotten over time? For our precious photographs … Continue reading

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Last night’s ‘Corrie’

Many people who go through traumatic experience spend years afterwards avoiding reminders of it. After Jenny’s death, I wouldn’t for example want to watch a screen adaptation of Great Expectations, as I’d be anticipating Miss Havisham’s clothes going up in … Continue reading

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And when did you last see your sister?

No gym this morning and very strange that I find myself sitting at the computer writing this. It’s 20 years exactly since I last saw Jenny. That was at 7.45 on 31 August 1996, a Saturday morning. I’d already had … Continue reading

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1930 is the new 1899

The last of the ‘Victorians’ News this morning that the oldest person in the world, Susannah Mushatt Jones, has died aged 116. The mantle now passes to Emma Morano, who’s not only the oldest person currently alive but also the … Continue reading

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Not remembered

The wartime child victims of the Garrick Theatre Disaster This week marked 100 years since the Garrick Theatre Disaster. Never heard of it? This was little known story, overshadowed by the horrors of the First World War, is about the … Continue reading

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The midnight knock at the door

How do police break the bad news to bereaved relatives? The 20th anniversary of Jenny’s death is fast approaching. In all those years since 15 October 1996, my opinions about what happened have changed many times: my thoughts on how … Continue reading

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Stop, rewind, replay

The problem of not knowing People who live to tell the story of a traumatic event often describe a curious distortion of time. It is, they say, as if everything slows down, a bit like watching the scene of a … Continue reading

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