Category Archives: bereavement

Not remembered

The wartime child victims of the Garrick Theatre Disaster This week marked 100 years since the Garrick Theatre Disaster. Never heard of it? This was little known story, overshadowed by the horrors of the First World War, is about the … Continue reading

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The midnight knock at the door

How do police break the bad news to bereaved relatives? The 20th anniversary of Jenny’s death is fast approaching. In all those years since 15 October 1996, my opinions about what happened have changed many times: my thoughts on how … Continue reading

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Stop, rewind, replay

The problem of not knowing People who live to tell the story of a traumatic event often describe a curious distortion of time. It is, they say, as if everything slows down, a bit like watching the scene of a … Continue reading

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‘Coming out’ at work about traumatic bereavement

Those awkward water cooler conversations A new year, and back to the office. Spare a thought for newbies getting to know their colleagues. Hopefully 2016 won’t bring many of those awkward moments I think of as ‘coming out’ about bereavement. … Continue reading

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I’ll not be home for Christmas

The empty chair at the dinner table That great pre-Christmas schlep out of London now behind us, I’m happily ensconced in the guest room overlooking the village green. It’s become a new normal – the food, the drink, the family … Continue reading

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No-one’s immortal

Five lessons Jenny’s sudden death taught me Strange how water cooler conversations can set off a chain of thought. Earlier this year when former Apprentice star Stuart Baggs died suddenly, all the talk at work was about the ‘27 Club’. This … Continue reading

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Don’t play that song again!

Choose that piece of music very carefully For those of you landing on this page expecting to read a post about Nicki French and the UK’s doomed entry for the Y2K Eurovision Song Contest, sorry to disappoint you. Admittedly written … Continue reading

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The scorched watch

A grim addition to an already gruelling day Most of us only rarely ever stumble into someone else’s intensely emotional moments in the course of our working lives. Not so for those in a few notable professions including doctors, fire … Continue reading

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Tribute to a stillborn twin

Guest post In order to widen the range of perspectives demonstrated in this blog, I’m inviting guest contributions from others who’ve had experiences of the issues I write about. For this first guest post, I’m very grateful to Phil for … Continue reading

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My diary of grief

Revisiting my diary from the month Jenny died In writing Twinned I was clear that this memoir on Jenny’s life and death was not to be a therapy diary. I wanted to tell a particular story that matters to me … Continue reading

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