Category Archives: bereavement

Helen Bailey

In these days after the sentencing of Helen Bailey’s murderer, we’ve learned how a dangerous predator has targeted a writer at a time when she was vulnerable. As Deborah Orr points out in the Guardian, elements of the press have … Continue reading

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I’ll not be home for Christmas (again)

The first post I’ve ever repeated in this blog, but rather fitting. The empty chair at the dinner table That great pre-Christmas schlep out of London now behind us, I’m happily ensconced in the guest room overlooking the village green. … Continue reading

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Awkward anniversaries for the bereaved

Anniversaries are difficult, both as a marker during the grieving process and as a sometimes unexpected reminder later on. Most people agree the first is the worst. That was certainly true for me. I’ve now got 20 behind me – … Continue reading

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Twenty years after the inquest

It’s been a year of high-profile inquests. The cases that come to mind are Deepcut soldier Cheryl James’s inquest in June and nurse Amin Abdullah who died in February. Although I was moved by the news reports at the time, … Continue reading

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The rose that died

It must have been even more difficult in the days before video, sound clips, photographs. How did you preserve the memory of your loved ones? Would even the sound of their voice be forgotten over time? For our precious photographs … Continue reading

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Last night’s ‘Corrie’

Many people who go through traumatic experience spend years afterwards avoiding reminders of it. After Jenny’s death, I wouldn’t for example want to watch a screen adaptation of Great Expectations, as I’d be anticipating Miss Havisham’s clothes going up in … Continue reading

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TFI Saturday!

It’s been a difficult year in general – a surfeit of celebrity deaths, that shock Brexit result, the departure of a Prime Minister. But for me, 2016 was largely going to be about one fact – the 20th anniversary of … Continue reading

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15 September 1996

Strange, what with the impending 20th anniversary on 15 October, I remember something similar from 15 September 1996 which I’ve not thought about in years. A car crash at Puddletown near Dorchester in the early hours that day killed four … Continue reading

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And when did you last see your sister?

No gym this morning and very strange that I find myself sitting at the computer writing this. It’s 20 years exactly since I last saw Jenny. That was at 7.45 on 31 August 1996, a Saturday morning. I’d already had … Continue reading

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Twenty years ago – August 1996

The start of a new week and another month. When we were young children, the first of each month was always greeted with cries of ‘White rabbits!’ I have no idea why. This particular month is going to be a … Continue reading

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